How Lucky I Am That Some Things Did Not Work Out

There’s a certain kind of heartbreak that comes when life doesn’t go the way you hoped it would.

Maybe it was a job you were sure was meant for you.

A relationship you poured your whole heart into.

A move, a dream, an idea that felt like the missing piece—until it wasn’t.

At the time, it felt like failure. Like loss. Like a personal shortcoming.

I remember crying over closed doors and wondering why nothing seemed to work out the way I wanted. I replayed my choices over and over, thinking maybe if I had just done one thing differently, I wouldn’t be here—stuck, disappointed, confused.

But what I couldn’t see then is what I see so clearly now:

Some of the biggest blessings in my life came from the things that didn’t go according to plan.

The job I didn’t get made space for one that taught me who I truly am.

The relationship that fell apart brought me back home to myself.

The delay, the detour, the denial—it all shifted me onto a path that I never could’ve mapped out, but one that has been more fulfilling than I imagined.

We’re taught to chase certainty, to plan every detail, to attach to outcomes. But life is wild and mysterious. Sometimes the closed door isn’t rejection—it’s redirection. It’s protection. It’s grace in disguise.

Now, when something doesn’t work out, I don’t spiral the way I used to. I pause. I breathe. I remind myself:

“This might be one of those lucky moments in disguise.”

If you’re in a season where it feels like everything is falling apart, I want you to know this:

You are not cursed.

You are not behind.

You are being rerouted.

And one day, maybe not today, you’ll look back and say with full clarity and gratitude:

“How lucky I am that some things did not work out.”